The Spiritual Maui Wedding
Written & Performed by Rev. John Souter
Because you want your wedding to be special, you will want to
select just the right ceremony that best fits the two of you.
This ceremony may seem long in written form but it only takes
about 10 to 12 minutes. Below you will find the text of the Spiritual
KEVIN and JENNIFER you have come
to this beautiful setting here in Maui, the land of aloha, so
that you could publicly commit yourselves to each other in marriage.
Think for a moment of the caterpillar.
He begins life as a lowly, uninteresting little creature. Yet
he is one day transformed by an extraordinary metamorphosis into
the most exquisite and fragile butterfly. In a similar way, your
relationship is changing today. Today you are being transformed
WHY DO YOU LOVE?
Take a moment, and gaze into each others
eyes. What is it that you see there that has captured your soul?
What spark, what love, what beauty have you found in those eyes
that has made you into a better person?
Do you remember when you first met? When
you first kissed? Can you recall the moment when your lover turned
your life and your heart upside down . . . ?
Now, today, you have come to bring all
of these emotions into something more. Today you stand before
these witnesses and desire to make a commitment that will produce
a lifetime of fulfillment.
1 CORINTHIANS 13
Now love is a verb. Its not just
a state of being, but its an ACTION verb. Love is more
than how you feel about each other; its also about what
you do FOR each other that will keep your relationship growing
Probably the best words ever written about
the character of love are found in 1 Corinthians 13. Here it
is from the Living Bible:
Love is very patient and kind, never
jealous or envious, never boastful or proud, never haughty or
selfish or rude. Love does not demand its own way. It is not
irritable or touchy. It does not hold grudges and will hardly
even notice when others do it wrong. It is never glad about injustice,
but rejoices whenever truth wins out.
If you love someone you will be
loyal to him no matter what the cost. You will always believe
in him, always expect the best of him, and always stand your
ground in defending him.
Some couples tend to think of marriage
as a 50/50 proposition. But the best relationships are usually
90/10. If you both will give 90%youll have a formula
likely to bring you a lifetime of happiness.
KEVIN and JENNIFER, in the Hawaiian language
there is a term to describe how couples should treat one another.
Hooponopono means: to put things right . . . by family
In other words, dont let the sun
set when you find that you are angry. Talk things out. Makes
things right with each other quickly, before the sun disappears
into the horizon.
Carl Sandburg captured the essence of
a love which can stand the test of time when he wrote:
I love you. I love you for what
you are, but I love you yet more for what you are going to be.
I love you not so much for your realities as for your ideals.
I pray for your desires, that they may be great, rather than
for your satisfactions, which may be so hazardously little.
A satisfied flower is one whose
petals are about to fall. But the most beautiful rose is one,
hardly more than a bud, wherein the pangs and ecstasies of desire
are working for larger and finer growth. Not always shall you
be what you are now. You are going forward toward something great.
I am on the way with you and . . I love you.
KEVIN, please take your lei and place
it around JENNIFER s neck.
KEVIN, let the beautiful & fragrant flowers that you have
placed on JENNIFER remind you of the beautiful and fragile nature
of your relationship with her.
Do you KEVIN, take JENNIFER, to be your
wife, to live together according to Gods Word? Will you
love and cherish her, assisting her in all her labors? Will you
be true to her both in sickness and health, when things are going
well and when there are problems? And will you be faithful to
her as long as you both shall live? If so, you may answer, I
KEVIN, cherish JENNIFER always, treating
her as your princess.
JENNIFER, take this lei and place it around
KEVIN s neck. JENNIFER, let the beauty & fragrance
of these flowers which you have placed on KEVIN remind you always
of this day when you committed yourself to be his bride.
Do you, JENNIFER, take KEVIN, to be your
husband, to live together according to Gods Word? Will
you love and cherish him, assisting him in all his labors? Will
you be true to him both in sickness and health, both when things
are going well and when there are difficulties? And will you
be faithful to him as long as you both shall live? If so, you
may answer, I WILL.
JENNIFER, cherish KEVIN always, treating
him as your prince.
KEVIN, may I have the ring that is the
lasting symbol of your vows to JENNIFER? This gold ring has been
subjected to tremendous heat so that the waste could be removed
and the metal purified into a fit token of your commitment of
love here today.
KEVIN, let this ring symbolize your willingness
to build your character through your self-sacrificial love for
JENNIFER. Place the ring on the third finger of JENNIFER S
left hand and repeat after me as you make these vows to her:
I KEVIN, from this day forward take
you JENNIFER to be my lawfully wedded wife. I will love you,
I will cherish you, I will be true to you, no matter what comes,
whether we become rich or poor, whether there is sickness or
health, as long as we both shall live, and with this ring, as
a symbol of my love, I now marry you.
JENNIFER, may I have the ring that is
the lasting symbol of your vows to KEVIN?
This ring is a circle. A circle symbolizes
eternitybecause it never ends. JENNIFER, let this ring
remind you of the new lifetime relationship that you are entering
with KEVIN. Place the ring on the third finger of KEVIN s
left hand and repeat after me as you make these vows to KEVIN:
I JENNIFER, from this day forward
take you KEVIN to be my lawfully wedded husband. I will love
you, I will cherish you, I will be true to you, no matter what
comes. Whether we become rich or poor, whether there is sickness
or health, as long as we both shall live, and with this ring,
as a symbol of my love, I now marry you.
Now, that you KEVIN and JENNIFER have
openly declared your wish to be united in the covenant of marriage,
and as you have made these promises to each other before God
and these witnesses, and have given each other rings to confirm
I, John Souter, by the power & authority
granted to me as a minister of the Gospel, and according to the
laws of the County of Maui and the State of Hawaii, do now pronounce
you to be: Husband and wife
God has joined you together let
no one tear you apart. You may kiss your bride.
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